Monday, 31 March 2014

The Baby Shower

Andino's family threw a baby shower for me on Saturday. His Mom has been talking about it for months and his Aunts helped out with the cooking and planning. This is the first granddaughter for his parents (third for mine!) and their first grandchild in over 15 years. Unfortunately I didn't get many photos because I was feeling quite overwhelmed with the whole experience, but I did snap these after most of the guests had left:

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Andino's Mom on the left and his Aunt on the right - the party planners!

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Andino's sister is on the right, which makes the other two girls my nieces. Weird because we are the same age! The girl in the orange shirt is one of my best friends and will be our support person during the delivery.

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My best friend who I also call my sister. She's from back home but lives in the prairies now with her boyfriend (hopefully soon to be husband!)

p.s. I am only 5'4" I'm but the tallest person in all these photos!

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The cake that was beautiful, but didn't get eaten because there were cachitos & chilenitos which are chilean desserts that are DELICIOSO

 

cachitos & chilenitos - pastries filled with caramel!

 

I didn't expect to be so overwhelmed by the baby shower. I've been to plenty of baby showers over the years and they are all basically the same - women get together, eat, chat a bit and the guest of honour opens gifts. No big deal. Well, it is a lot different when you are the guest of honour. I don't know if I felt so nervous because of everything we've been through to get to this point or if it is because it is nerve-wracking to have 30+ people watch you open gifts for an hour. I was sweating and nervous-smiling and very self-concious the whole time. I am definitely a shy person when it comes to social situations like this. I can give public presentations no problem, but put me in a room with a lot of people and expect me to be outgoing & friendly to everyone and I seize up. I remember when I was in Mozambique I went to a meeting with representatives from various government offices and NGOs and I was put on the spot to stand up and speak (in Portuguese) about the project I was working on. I got nervous, but it was nothing compared to my nerves on Saturday. I don't think it's a coincidence that my best friends and husband are all very outgoing, friendly people who excel in social situations. I always rely on them to be the chatty ones while I sit back and smile/watch. The night before my shower I woke up at 3:30 am and couldn't fall back asleep. I was thinking about the shower but I didn't realize I was so anxious until the next night (after my shower) when I also woke up at 3:30 am and had to get up to read my book because I still hadn't fallen back asleep by 5:00 am. I couldn't turn my mind off and stop wondering if I had been friendly enough, if I thanked people enough, if people had a good time, if they could tell how anxious I was and if so did my anxiety ruin it? I can honestly say that today (Monday) is the first day I feel back to normal again.

I was touched that so many people showed up to celebrate us. Andino and I have been very open about our challenges on our path to parenthood, so everyone in that room knew what a big day it was for me. What a long time it was coming. Every single gift I opened was so thoughtful and beautiful I was overcome by emotion. Andino's family in Chile sent gifts too, and his favourite Aunt sent us the favours. A couple of my friends weren't able to make it to the shower so we are planning to get together this weekend for lunch. My Mom said that I was probably overwhelmed because I realized that so many people were thinking about us not just on that day, but in the days leading up to it when they were picking out the gifts for baby girl, writing the cards and making food to bring.  I'm sure I was anxious for a variety of reasons but overall it was a very special day.

One thing is for sure, this baby girl has people all over North & South America who love her already!

 

28 comments:

  1. What a beautiful shower!! I totally get the same way when I'm the center of attention- SO uncomfortable!! But I'm so glad so many people came to support you! Also, those Chilean treats on the right??!?!?! HOLY COW I NEED THAT!! They look amazing! I would also have ignored the cake in favor of those!! :)

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  2. Now I'm craving caramel. Those desserts look soooo good. ;)

    Despite the nerves, it sounds like it was a wonderful baby shower. I'm so glad you got to celebrate it with your family and loved ones. You look amazing too.

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  3. Love it! I am the same with being the center of attention. I am such an introvert. Your shower was beautiful and glad you are so close with Andino's family. And, I NEED THOSE TREATS NOW! :)

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  4. I both loved my shower and was completely overwhelmed by it. Far more so than I had felt for my wedding shower - I didn't have to work so hard to fall in love, I guess.
    Are those Chilean caramel treats made with cows' milk caramel or goat milk? In Mexico "cajeta" is used - caramel made from goat milk - and it's divine. Frankly, I don't care where you get the caramel from...

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  5. What a lovely shower! So glad your baby is already receiving so much love!

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  6. It's wonderful to be surrounded by love! Infertility can be so lonely. OK to be nervous too!

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  7. You look gorgeous, I love that dress! And the cake looks amazing. It sounds like it was a wonderful day, I'm so happy you were surrounded by the ones you love!

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  8. Thanks so much :)
    And yes, the treats are so yummy!!

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  9. Yes, I was a little uncomfortable at my wedding shower, but it was nothing compared to the baby shower!

    I've had cajeta before which is also delicious but this is not made from cows' milk. They are both delicious though!

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  10. Yes, it's a great feeling to be surrounded by love!

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  11. I did not have a baby shower, but I can tell you that the waves of love, prayers, presents, thoughts that we have been receiving since baby Yu's birth is overwhelming.
    I felt similarly anxious during our wedding, I think it has to do, like your mom says, with being the recipient of so much love and thoughtfulness. We are so grateful, and I am sure you are as well.
    Those Chilean desserts look delicious. I do hope you ate that lovely cake later! And you look beautiful!

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  12. notpregnantandpissed1 April 2014 at 07:57

    I cannot wait for my baby shower! I don't think I will be nervous but I admit I am an attention whore, lol! I am glad you had a nice shower, you deserve it!

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  13. We are so very grateful and yes we did have a slice later :)

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  14. haha I like being the centre of attention too, but I suppose only under certain circumstances...

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  15. I can't decide what to comment on first...you or the desserts!!! Ok you. You look so beautiful! Like you are meant to be pregnant. Gorgeous. Also, don't worry about feeling overwhelmed. I didn't read all of your comments, but I'm sure everyone said the same thing - that's normal! I remembering feeling like it was my wedding day or something. I too felt guilty that I didn't spend enough time with everyone or thank everyone, but they understand!

    Ok...those desserts!!! Oh my god...

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  16. I pretty much felt the same way at my shower. So overwhelming! I still regret that I didn't take any pictures because my aunt did such an amazing job of decorating. I know there were plenty of people at my shower I barely had a chance to talk to and I felt bad about it, but they all understand. But, opening presents in front of people like that? So awkward!

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  17. Okay, the first thing I thought was how cute that dress is!
    I know you are petite, but for some reason I always think you're almost as tall as me (5'7). It's funny I noticed you were taller but didn't think much of it.I know everyone said it, but I am drooling over thoughs treats too!
    I'm glad you had a big turn out, even if it was a bit uncomfortable; you can't argue with free gifts! ;)

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  18. I'm glad so many people felt similarly emotional about their own showers. I thought I was the only one!

    and thanks for the compliments :)

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  19. I'm so glad it's not just me who felt completely awkward/unnatural. See, that's why I love blogging because if I never wrote about it I'd think I was the only one!

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  20. I wasn't sure about the dress! I wanted to wear my sari skirt but I decided to go a little less hippie so Andy's aunts would approve of my outfit! haha

    And yes, you and Mom are a few inches taller than me. I wonder how tall Sofia will be!

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  21. Emily (eatloveprocreate.blogspot.com)4 April 2014 at 04:35

    Awe, beautiful pics. What a sweet time and how nice of them to celebrate you in such a special way!

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  22. So glad you had a beautiful shower!!

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  23. I don't really like to be on the spot either, opening presents in front of people and being worried whether I show the proper appreciation for the gifts. I do great in front of people giving a peaches, but social situations are very awkward for me. You look great and I love the dress. The cake looks amazing, but the other deserts look scrumptious!

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